Book Review: Women Are Crazy; Men Are Stupid

When I borrowed Manslations from the library, I picked up Women Are Crazy; Men Are Stupid by Howard J. Morris and Jenny Lee (a couple) at the same time. This book was not as good, which is why it’s taken me a little longer to read and review.

The premise of this book is that women are crazy (and irrational and hard to figure out) and men are stupid (and do stupid things and don’t think). The authors base this on their own relationship, and Jenny is indeed crazy. For example, Howard bought her flowers. Her favourites are peonies and they only have a very short season. Howard went to three different stores and could only find two (one of which had not yet bloomed). He bought them home and presented them to Jenny. Her reaction? Flipping out and expressing criticism that they weren’t better. For goodness sakes, woman! Your man went to great effort to get your favourite flowers and you don’t appreciate it. You didn’t even like the one that hadn’t bloomed (which in my opinion is a great find because you get to enjoy the flower for its whole life, rather than just as it’s dying). Sure, I get that maybe you were expecting dozens, but if your favourite flower is hard to find, you should have at least a little understanding of what that means (i.e. you may not get dozens).

Jenny just got on my nerves. She tells the story of how she bought an expensive pair of boots she couldn’t afford and then tried to think about how to fool Howard about how much she had spent. Yep, dishonesty and lack of trust is such a firm foundation for a relationship!

Basically, Jenny comes across as hyper-critical and hard-to-please. I’m a woman and I thought she was crazy. Howard comes across as a little dopey, but actually kind of sweet and not completely stupid.

To be honest, the book wasn’t interesting enough to remember much. So don’t bother with it unless you have a lot of time on your hands to read.

Now, don’t get me wrong. What I do/say can go into the “crazy”, too. I tend to over-react and over-think (as a previous post has established). Thankfully, with the right guy the “crazy” won’t be a deal-breaker. At least, I hope so.

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Book Review: Manslations

On the weekend, just for fun, I picked up one of those “relationship” books at the library (why would I spend good money on these books when I can borrow them for free?).

This book, Manslations by Jeff Mac was actually kind of funny. Very easy to read with some good tips and insights. Personally, I don’t like generalisations, and this book basically boiled all men down to a few dot points. I may be wrong, but I believe human beings, including men, are a little more complicated and nuanced than that. Still, I’ll take the information on board and accept that Jeff probably knows a bit more about the male mind than I do (as he is male and has such a mind and I am not and do not). Some of the information I already knew, and some was new.

One section in particular caught my attention.

On page 179, Jeff explains about the Anger Smokescreen, and I immediately thought of M (read his story here). Jeff tells a story of a woman who caught her man cheating and when she confronted him, he started getting angry at her. Jeff writes:

You catch him doing something wrong; you have all the evidence; and yet he flips out as if you’re the one being outrageous. He’s banking on you not being confident enough to defend your point in the face of furious anger.

See? EXACTLY like M when I confronted him. I did not continue to engage him with the anger, so no doubt in M’s mind he ‘beat’ me in that argument, but who gives a shit? I let it go because I saw him for what he was and knew he wasn’t worth another word – he would never have admitted wrong and no doubt would only have continued to try to make ME feel bad for what HE did. Arse.

If you are single and baffled by male behaviour, I do recommend this book. It reiterates points in other books like He’s Just Not Into You, but give it a shot, anyway. Let me know if any part stood out for you.