I first started online dating YEARS ago. 2007? 2008? Something like that. I’ve also left the sites for months or years at a time. Sometimes my absence has been prompted by meeting someone (online or off), and sometimes it has been prompted by NOT meeting someone. Being online and putting the effort into chatting with a virtual stranger (literally) and having it go nowhere is exhausting, because you generally aren’t just chatting to one stranger, but many. Sometimes it’s like pulling teeth trying to get a conversation going. And sometimes after what you think has been a great conversation and you definitely want to learn more about someone, they delete you with no explanation. Or they see your pictures and then they delete you.
This happens a lot, and you grow a thick skin FAST.
But what is most discouraging is the lack of quality online. You flip through some profiles and (sorry to say it, but it’s true), you can see the reason why some of these guys are single.
The online dating ads are a trap. You will not have amazing dates every week. You will not have an amazing connection to everyone you chat to. You will not find the guys who are pictured in the ads.
Take this one for example:
Uh huh. He ain’t online, girls! And even if he was, a ‘thin, Christian woman’ probably ain’t what he’s looking for!
You will, however, find this guy:
Right now, I’ve got to rush off, but in the coming weeks and months, I’ll be putting up more online dating gems. Hope to see you back here!